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Ask Dr. Tseday: February 15, 2010
SD from Chennai, Tamilnadu asks: I am struggling right now in sorting out religious differences between me and my wife. Please suggest how I should sort this out without the issue becoming a pot boiler.
Dr. Tseday responds: There is no such thing as “sorting out” religious differences. People believe what they believe in for whatever reason. Since that reason is subjective and subjective things are not up for intellectual discussion, one cannot necessarily convince the other in believing in something else.
So in your case, since you believe strongly in what you believe know that your wife also has a strong belief in what she believes. The solution then is for both of you to embrace your differences and let each other simply be. That would be the best solution. But if this doesn’t work for you, then you change your religion to hers.
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