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Life Simplified Concepts: Financial Compatibility
Financial Compatibility is a bit different than the other four in that it is all about eliminating vulnerability and the possibility of being leveraged. Ever since human beings settled in a monogamous relationship, sex and money have played a part in settling scores, which is why any relationship guide or counselor should put extra emphasis on these two matters. Money has always been used as the tool to controlling the household and the marriage, and there is nothing more detrimental for a couple than manipulating each other financially, just because the economic realities were aligned on one side more than the other. But that is not the case anymore.
Everybody, irrespective of gender, societal, or familial standing, can earn a living and declare themselves financial independent. This independence is a big part of being self-sufficient. Self-Sufficiency is to eliminate all points of weaknesses where, intentionally or not, one side of the relationship has the opportunity to manipulate and control the other. This chapter teaches the readers that in order to eliminate financial vulnerability and give others the opportunity to leverage that against them, people must establish a long-term relationship where they can afford the bare necessities individually, without the financial assistance of their partner. It means to have the earning capability that can support the necessity of a family (not anything extra or luxurious), so that both people in a relationship are convinced that they can manage the household by themselves and not be put in vulnerable position by their partner.
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Dr. Tseday is a clinical psychologist and one of the country's leading experts in marriage, relationships, and self development. She advocates a unique and at times controversial approach to the dynamics of marriage and personal development, the necessary element for a successful relationship. Read more »