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Becoming Ugly
I often see you reacting to the ugly and dirty things others do and becoming ugly yourself in the end. When others are ugly in the inside and they do ugly things that match who they are, walk away. Do instead what you’ve always known to be decent, kind, and honorable. Continue to be loving. Continue to preserve your integrity.
Just because others are ugly doesn’t mean you too have to be ugly. Just because they do ugly things doesn’t mean you too have to do ugly things. And if you choose to be ugly, then you’re just like them. You’re no better than they are. Know that you’ve become them. Don’t try to teach them a lesson. Don’t try to match them. Don’t try to out-do them. They will beat you at this game all day long. They’ll win everytime. Do yourself a favor – pull back and don’t play their ugly game for decency of you.
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Dr. Tseday is a clinical psychologist and one of the country's leading experts in marriage, relationships, and self development. She advocates a unique and at times controversial approach to the dynamics of marriage and personal development, the necessary element for a successful relationship. Read more »