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Ask Dr. Tseday: March 13, 2010
SP from Anaheim Hills, CA asks: My sister and her husband told my husband and I today that they plan on naming their unborn daughter the name we have for our daughter. I am very much bothered by this. I am really, really angry with them for doing this. I am not sure what to do about it. I’m willing to hear what you have to say, even though I think I already know (I’ve been following your articles for about a year and I have a pretty good idea what you’ll say).
Dr. Tseday responds: Silly Mother… Grow up! You do not own the name. Having the same name takes nothing away from your daughter. Rather than focusing on a name, which is not important, aim to build your daughter by focusing your acts of decency, integrity, character and kindness. These make her the woman and mother you want her to be eventually, rather than the name you have given her. By the way, do yourself a favor and never mention this to anyone again. It makes look little.
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