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Ask Dr. Tseday: July 7, 2009
DD from Montreal, Canada asks: My co-worker just got promoted. I’m really upset because her performance is way lower than mine and I’ve been with the company longer than her. I’d like to confront my boss and ask him why he promoted her over me. What shall I say in the meeting?
Dr. Tseday responds: Do not “confront” your boss. He gets to do what he wants to do the way he sees it fit, and you have no say. Confronting him would put you in a negative light and decreases greatly your chances of being a candidate for promotion in the future. But what you should do is ask him what he believes your challenges and limitations are and what you can do to improve them. Show your willingness and motivation to do even better. One very important thing: Do not at all mention your co-worker during this meeting.
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