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Using Sex As A Weapon and The Other 6 Biggest Mistakes Married Women Make

Have you ever withheld sex from your husband to get what you want? Think again, according to top marriage and relationship expert Dr. Tseday Aberra. According to Dr. Aberra, a clinical psychologist, there are seven mistakes that women will typically make at one point or another during the course of their marriage.

“Most of the women who come to me with marital problems have, at one point or another, made all of these mistakes during their marriage,” said Dr. Aberra. “It is critical for women to change their way of thinking in each of these areas.”

The seven mistakes women typically make in a marriage:

  1. Using sex as a weapon: The biggest no-no ever! A faithful husband has no choice but to come to you for sex. He doesn’t like being reminded of his vulnerability; it’s hurtful and will create feelings of anger and resentment. Find another way to solve your problem.
  2. Keeping score: Most women have the uncanny ability to recall the time and place of every mistake their husband has ever made and bring past errors to the forefront to win arguments. Stay away from bringing up his mistakes over and over again; scorekeeping is not an endearing quality.
  3. Demanding to know everything:You don’t have the right to know everything he thinks about or does, unless it’s about your marriage. If you need to know everything, you’re insecure about yourself and your marriage.
  4. Nagging all day: He clearly understands what you want. And he’s capable of making a decision about what he wants to do. You’re not going to get what you want by nagging so cut-it out.
  5. Fighting unfairly: This quality is more common in women than in men. A woman’s tendency is to personalize fights, making it difficult to have fair and necessary marital arguments. Productive disagreements need to be kept within the context of the marriage and the issue at-hand.
  6. Latching: Even if you enjoy each other’s company, he still wants to have time without you. It’s necessary. Time without you doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. Don’t take it personally. It’s rather healthy.
  7. Throwing a fit over his spending: Most men shop for themselves a couple of times a year and their spending seems excessive because they do their shopping all at once. You, on the other hand, don’t appear to spend much because you shop more frequently.

About the author

Dr. Tseday is a clinical psychologist and one of the country's leading experts in marriage, relationships, and self development. She advocates a unique and at times controversial approach to the dynamics of marriage and personal development, the necessary element for a successful relationship. Read more »

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