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7 Mistakes Married Women Make
1. Using Sex As A Weapon: The biggest no-no ever! A faithful husband has no choice but to come to you for sex. He doesn’t like being reminded of his vulnerability; it’s hurtful and will create feelings of anger and resentment. Find another way to solve your problem.
2. Keeping Score: Most women have the uncanny ability to recall the time and place of every mistake their husband has ever made and bring past errors to the forefront to win arguments. Stay away from bringing up his mistakes over and over again; scorekeeping is not an endearing quality.
3. Demanding To Know Everything: You don’t have the right to know everything he thinks about or does, unless it’s about your marriage. If you need to know everything, you’re insecure about yourself and your marriage.
4. Nagging All Day: He clearly understands what you want. And he’s capable of making a decision about what he wants to do. You’re not going to get what you want by nagging so cut-it out.
5. Fighting Unfairly: This quality is more common in women than in men. A woman’s tendency is to personalize fights, making it difficult to have fair and necessary marital arguments. Productive disagreements need to be kept within the context of the marriage and the issue at-hand.
6. Latching: Even if you enjoy each other’s company, he still wants to have time without you. It’s necessary. Time without you doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. Don’t take it personally. It’s rather healthy.
7. Throwing A Fit Over His Spending: Most men shop for themselves a couple of times a year and their spending seems excessive because they do their shopping all at once. You, on the other hand, don’t appear to spend much because you shop more frequently.
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Dr. Tseday is a clinical psychologist and one of the country's leading experts in marriage, relationships, and self development. She advocates a unique and at times controversial approach to the dynamics of marriage and personal development, the necessary element for a successful relationship. Read more »