Dr. Tseday Aberra

Grow Some *****!

Dr. Tseday — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 04:31:54 +0000

.….goin’ around wonderin’ what went wrong, wonderin’ why your life is a mess.…this fake perplex you’re puttin’ out there thinking its impressing others, you’re not. you know exactly what went wrong. Cut that **** out! The problem is right underneath your nose. Its right there if you dare to grow some ***** and look. Maybe then you’ll start to fix your problems.

This to you, BN (and the rest of you who are fakin’ the funk!)

Rough Life

Dr. Tseday — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 05:00:44 +0000

Sometimes, those we love end up getting the short end of the stick. When life is a little rough on them, all we can do is watch. If only we had the power to re-do life for them, we wish. But then, we realize we’re left with just loving them. Maybe that’ll do. Yes, indeed.

This to you, R.

U Wishy-Washy U!

Dr. Tseday — Sun, 08 Apr 2012 19:31:58 +0000

Don’t you dare waver in your principles!
Don’t you dare waver in your standards!
Don’t you dare become wishy-washy!
Be clear about who you are and what you will and will not do.
You determine who you are, not others.
If they don’t like who you are, it is their problem not yours.

If you want to rise, make sure your behavior is not dictated by what they think of you or how they feel about you. They ought not to matter. Who you are and what you do is driven by a principle and standard you set.

Oh.…You don’t have principle or standard?
GET ONE!.…U Wishy-Washy U!

Becoming Ugly

Dr. Tseday — Sun, 01 Apr 2012 19:54:46 +0000

I often see you reacting to the ugly and dirty things others do and becoming ugly yourself in the end. When others are ugly in the inside and they do ugly things that match who they are, walk away. Do instead what you’ve always known to be decent, kind, and honorable. Continue to be loving. Continue to preserve your integrity.

Just because others are ugly doesn’t mean you too have to be ugly. Just because they do ugly things doesn’t mean you too have to do ugly things. And if you choose to be ugly, then you’re just like them. You’re no better than they are. Know that you’ve become them. Don’t try to teach them a lesson. Don’t try to match them. Don’t try to out-do them. They will beat you at this game all day long. They’ll win everytime. Do yourself a favor — pull back and don’t play their ugly game for decency of you.

Fixing Your Pain

Dr. Tseday — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 04:50:13 +0000

The pain you feel deeply is so yours. Only yours. Regardless of what you’ve done, regardless of what others have said, it stays. This pain – oh! This pain – it has picked you, as if it has nothing better to do.

Payback. Sounds delicious, but it won’t fix your pain. Wondering around won’t do it either. If fact, everything you’re thinking about, everything you’re thinking of doing in the name of “payback” will compromise you. You’ll lose the essence of you. You will become someone you don’t like. These things you’re thinking of doing will, at the end, hurt you more. This, I promise you.

Stay put during this time. Don’t do anything that is outside your ordinary. Don’t do anything new. Don’t behave differently. Don’t make new friends. Don’t go to new places. Don’t dress differently. Don’t talk differently. Don’t smell differently. Don’t create a new routine. Stay put.

Don’t become like the others thinking they’ve got it better. They don’t. They and their opinions don’t matter. Yours does. You don’t have to prove anything to them. Don’t you dare lower yourself and be found in their company. You’re a much better human being, a much better woman than they are combined. Keep your standard. Stay put.

Time. She doesn’t mind taking away your pain. She won’t let it poke so much. If you do decide to come out of your element and do the things you’re thinking of doing, however, you’ll heal crookedly. You’ll heal with darkness in your heart. You’ll heal with anger and confusion. You’ll heal with uncertainty and doubt. You’ll heal without peace.

Heal correctly. Go through the pain while keeping the essence of who you are, who you’ve always been. Remember her and keep her. Go through the pain while maintaining your integrity. You’ll shine at the end.

This to you, S.

Petals. Pretty Pink Ones. For You, H.

Dr. Tseday — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 23:20:16 +0000

“Thank You!”

Dr. Tseday — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 00:50:46 +0000

We wanted to let you know we are doing good. We’ve had a few bumps in the road, but learning to end them quickly has been vital to resolving our conflicts. WE have also had to learn that being right is not being happy. Most importantly, MATURITY — which is the absolutely hardest for us. Thank you. I hope you’re having a great summer.
C from Yorba Linda, CA

The True Measure of Adulthood

Dr. Tseday — Thu, 05 May 2011 01:35:09 +0000

“The ability to swallow the disappointments and failures of life, and to be able to move on with life with decency and a smile.”

This is what I was thinking about driving back at 6 am this morning. I wanted to share my thoughts with you.

A Perfect Wife. A Perfect Husband.

Dr. Tseday — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 04:27:15 +0000

Being a wife is only by name. Being married is only by title.
But to truly be a wife in matrimony can only be acheived by deed.
Being a husband is easy. Being married requires very little effort.
But to truly be a husband in matrimony, a man must do certain things.

To honestly be called the better half to one’s partner, there are 10 things that a man and a woman must do for each other. At the end, you must know and understand a perfect wife makes the perfect husband.

Saturday, April 23, 2011 on www.VoiceAmericaHealth.com @ 8 am (pst). I’d love it if you can make it.

A Mother’s Sacrifice

Dr. Tseday — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 04:07:53 +0000

In this episode of “Life Simplified,” I want to share with you the struggle of a loving and brave mother as she builds a new relationship with her daughter. The mother’s struggle is with how to consolidate the great sacrifice she made for her daughter with the little value the daughter has given to that sacrifice. This is a mother’s personal journey. I hope this show lends a valuable lesson to all mothers who are or have been in her place once.

Join Me. Saturday, April 16, 2011 on www.VoiceAmericaHealth.com @ 8 am (pst).